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Persuading, encouraging, or over functioning

Jan 15

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Image by Jon Tyson/Unsplash
Image by Jon Tyson/Unsplash

I have come to realize recently that a big change has occurred in the way I relate to others over the last couple of decades. I seldom try to persuade others to change. For full disclosure, I have a persuasive personality, which would be a high I-D on the DISC tool assessment.


Therefore, it is natural for me to relate to others and situations in this manner. This is because:


  1. I want to help others.

  2. I feel I can best do that by helping them see the situation and a possible course of action.


These two factors cause an almost involuntary response on my part to help others by convincing them, teaching them, serving them, or any other engaging action. I thought of it as encouraging them to be better.


Recognizing a “Project Mentality”

As I aged, I realized that I often saw people as projects that I could help impact or guide. I wouldn’t have stated it this way, but I thought I could use my skills, wisdom, and experience to help others overcome their current challenges.


I also viewed myself as someone who could foresee impending roadblocks and help others avoid them by suggesting changes in their lives. I think a lot of "disciplers" can view others like this.